tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6987053430475322837.post2943503405187677099..comments2023-09-21T07:21:20.706-07:00Comments on The Perkster - Ramblings of a hungry fat girl: Breaking up is hard to doEhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14611472632465144188noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6987053430475322837.post-44527080194552934582010-09-07T09:12:43.446-07:002010-09-07T09:12:43.446-07:00I am so sorry!! I know how hard this is and it suc...I am so sorry!! I know how hard this is and it sucks right now but stay strong and you will be fine!<br /><br />I married my Mike and found out after the fact he didn't want kids. We were together 8 years and starting over was honestly one of the hardest things I have ever done. Thats actually when I started my blog. lol <br /><br />Now 3 years later I am engaged to a wonderful man that is the perfect match for me and there is no doubt in my mind he is the one I was meant to spend my life with.<br /><br />I still hate the fact I had to make some of the mistakes I did. And I wish I would have never married "my Mike" but I think I had to go thru all that to get where I am today.<br /><br />Just stay strong and follow your heart. I know there will be hard days that you will want to call him and work it out. But remember what it is you want out of life and if he isn't willing to give you that don't settle.<br /><br />{Sorry for the long comment!}Ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17835942728021508662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6987053430475322837.post-13824459707782438992010-09-02T19:27:36.170-07:002010-09-02T19:27:36.170-07:00I am so sorry! I have so been there. For that exac...I am so sorry! I have so been there. For that exact same reason too. You just can't compromise on that one. Can't have half a baby. <br /><br />I also know how hard it is to go through a big breakup. How hard it is to lose your best friend. Best advice? Let yourself go through the grieving process. And be kind to yourself. Get a breakup buddy (kind of like a sponsor). Best yet? Go read "It's called a breakup because it's broken." That book has seriously helped me. <br /><br />*hugs*Andygirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11639545596114354278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6987053430475322837.post-21818106517397972982010-09-02T11:58:22.159-07:002010-09-02T11:58:22.159-07:00I'm with Ella, that book is really good. But ...I'm with Ella, that book is really good. But I'm so sorry to hear of your breakup....even though you may not be meant to be together, that doesn't make it any easier. I'm just glad you stood up for yourself and didn't compromise something you really want in life. I don't think you'd ever forgive yourself if you did that. A guy friend of mine had a girl that hung around for 10 years, and he kept telling her that he didn't want more kids (he has one already from a previous marriage), but she didn't listen...she kept thinking he'd change his mind. He still hasn't, but she's finally moved on. She's 38 now. I think you did the right thing. Hugs to you, you'll make it through.Fidgeting Gidgethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03903926675948152931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6987053430475322837.post-65635733410904002992010-09-01T17:56:07.783-07:002010-09-01T17:56:07.783-07:00Oh I'm so sorry! I've been there and I kno...Oh I'm so sorry! I've been there and I know how you feel. It doesn't help right now, but I can tell you that it will get better eventually<br /><br />Oh also, go buy " It's called a break-up because it's broken". A friend recomended that to me when I broke up with my ex, and it's really an amazing book. I know it's cheesy, but it does makes you feel better. <br /><br />Hang in there hun!Ella Everywherehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01395333311873800737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6987053430475322837.post-65255678749395433442010-09-01T08:38:27.110-07:002010-09-01T08:38:27.110-07:00I'm sorry sweets. A break up is never easy but...I'm sorry sweets. A break up is never easy but I'm so proud of you & that fact that you didn't put your wants aside just to make it work. You will find a guy that wants the same thing in life that you do cause you're most definitely a catch. <br /><br />*hugs*Linhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14180987728892745670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6987053430475322837.post-67787708414456519632010-09-01T07:54:55.484-07:002010-09-01T07:54:55.484-07:00I am sorry girl. You are so strong though and prop...I am sorry girl. You are so strong though and props to you for standing up for what you want. I don't know if you know this, but I do know that ice cream (cookie n cream imparticularly) do help hurting hearts. Hang tough sister.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6987053430475322837.post-6810035023650215492010-09-01T07:52:08.142-07:002010-09-01T07:52:08.142-07:00that sucks. i'm so sorry. that's such a ha...that sucks. i'm so sorry. that's such a hard and scary conversation and decision to make. you should be very proud you stuck to your guns. hugs, lady!mylittlebeckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09610700094326989044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6987053430475322837.post-52461328800030015962010-08-31T21:37:55.668-07:002010-08-31T21:37:55.668-07:00Oh lady, I am sorry. It's bizarre, but my best...Oh lady, I am sorry. It's bizarre, but my best girl friend is going through the EXACT same thing (they were together for 5 years, lived together, she moved to CA from FL to be with him, she's 31, really knows she wants kids, etc etc). So I'll tell you what I've been telling her:<br /><br />you will be okay. you deserve to be happy and you deserve to have exactly what you want. you are loved.<br /><br />I'm only a bbm away! xoGabbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12073382283843185345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6987053430475322837.post-9940996581196663832010-08-31T20:07:08.841-07:002010-08-31T20:07:08.841-07:00See my friends? Would convince me to put the ice c...See my friends? Would convince me to put the ice cream and MoonPies away. So I could at least date again and not rely on a crane to get me to the next speed dating event. :) <br /><br />It's going to be ok. Because you know what? At least you aren't getting a divorce. Or had a baby on accident with a dad that didn't want kids. It doe suck but you are going to be ok. Because you know what you want and need out of life and you are one step closer to that.Sara Strandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02641499434694637445noreply@blogger.com