Wednesday, June 13, 2012

Adoption

Stuart and I are meeting with an adoption attorney this morning.

BM sent Stuart a text the other day (yes a text) saying she wanted to relinquish her parental rights and to have his attorney draw up the paperwork. I was shocked. We had planned to get her rights involuntarily terminated in Jan for abandonment of Little Dude. But here she is offering them up now.

I am hopeful and terrified at the same time. She never makes anything easy and I worry she will change her mind at the last minute. I can tell I am anxious because I am not sleeping well and I can't seem to focus. I want to be Little Dude's mother. His legal mother, I know I am already his mommy. I want BM completely out of the picture in regards to Little Dude.

Maybe this is her wedding gift to us or her birthday gift to Little Dude. I don't know, but I just hope it goes smoothly and quickly.

Wish us luck!

3 comments:

Lin said...

Good luck!

Smart Ass Sara said...

I seriously wish you a ton of luck. The only thing I think though is that even if it all goes through and she legally has no more rights... that Little Dude should know about her. And that he understands it's not because she didn't love him, but because she wasn't in a good place to be a good mom. And I'd like to think that she'd still want to know he turned out OK? I mean, as a mom myself, even if I was really fucked up and knew I couldn't do it, I'd still want to see pictures and just know that I made the right decision and that my kid(s) are doing OK.

E said...

We plan to never hide anything from the Little Dude, as he gets older we will tell him about what happened (age appropriate of course). I never plan to say anything bad about BM, just that she loved him, but was unable to be the mother he needed. Her mother and stepdad are still very much involved with him so we don't plan to cut off contact from that family. I just don't want her to have any legal right to him if god forbid something happened to Stuart!

 
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